This talk by Elaine S. Dalton helps fathers understand the importance of loving and cherishing the women in their life. He emphasized there is no one perfect way to be a mother and that every situation is different. The primary children sing and we are making a mothers day gift in primary. Alece 100 it is a bit rich for you to interpret that your comment and that quote by Lewis mean the same thing. In the garden He said, My soul is exceeding sorrowful, even unto death (Matthew 26:38). I may have to borrow that. I only wish my daughter could come in for graduation I am sure we would skip church together that morning! I would be totally okay if they did nothing for Mothers Day at church. Ere the sun goes down. We are an outlandishly weird, mixed up bunch of folk. In the same way, when we make a dramatic production of Mothers Day, I fear that we are sometimestrying to compensate for the way we devalue the real and important work they do on the other 364 days of the year. 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There there is the secular appeal - it causes a pain to those who are not mothers. Why are women so disenchanted with motherhood when we value it so highly? Uchtdorf. What do you think should be handed out for Mothers Day? And, as your mother, I will miss the delicious pie during a relaxing third hour of church. The first speaker was my favorite. It just screamed, whoops, we forgot to order flowers in time and ran out to walmart last night and bought up whatever womanly thing we could find. Really? American LDS women who attended Sacrament Meeting were told that they have a lot of innate qualities, such as being righteous, spiritual, pure, or nurturing. Since my husband gets to give especially when there are clear re-phrasings and clarifications. In addition, there are doctrinal and scriptural classes for . Why can't we let women celebrate it how they want at home and focus on Christ at church? To find a ward near you, try the Meetinghouse Locator, which will also provide sacrament meeting times, driving directions, and contact information. Last year we did two songs for the Mother's Day sacrament meeting, and they turned out beautifully, so I thought I would share them with you. Tell the moms that you'll be playing a game with the kids on Mother's Day and that . All So far, so good. I figure maybe in the next life I will be someones Heavenly Mother. I didnt realize Mothers Day was so close. Theres got to be a way to show a little appreciation and recognize their importance and significance without it being guilt-inducing. Those were the kinds of talks I gave, and thats what I would rather listen to. (i.e. Im asking this out of genuine curiosity/responsibility for handing stuff out. At the end of the survey there was a comments box where individuals could leave specific feedback to bishoprics that organize Mothers Day. Oh, and my husband is speaking in our ward this Mothers Day. We've gathered five inspiring gifts for Latter-day Saint women to help them feel cherished and celebrated. EOR, I would venture to say, even with being fairly new to BCC that few here mean to give offense. Well at least I know what not to talk about. This was very informative and interesting. So that no woman felt left out. Did they not have mothers? It was a very honest list, but emphasized that the things she would change had nothing to do with looking good, acting a certain way, or different callings. we have never ceased head-shaking about his, well, completely horrific timingand choiceoif topicand general ignorance and intolerance (and sheer bovine stupidity). And out the door I flee. Your arrangement sounds really cool. It isn't in every country so I don't know why it has to be in just a few. I like the post. And, invariably, as soon as I would send one on his way, Im not a mother, thank you, another would pop up at my elbow, dutifully, kindly twisting the knife. The greatest Mormon blog in the universe. They cannot eat it, and in fact just having the stuff around is a serious temptation to do so. Why..thank you! Ziff, thank you. It might be that it was a holiday originally conceived by the US Socialist Party and propagated by the Soviets. Nourishing both body and souls.Just my humble opinion. His explanation was not to offend any sister. It spoke to the special importance of mothers to their children, but also made clear that as with other mistakes, the effects of mothers failings can absolutely be healed by the Atonement. Well done! Examples? It would be much easier for me to hear mothers day talks if they were real instead of ideal, though Id prefer a good sermon on Christ, instead. This is Elder Hollands second appearance on this list of LDS talks on motherhood. She talked about how her convert mother negotiated church attendance with her inactive husband, how she brought the gospel into the home to the extent she could while maintaining close family ties and coping with her own faith struggles, and how her example and choices blessed her home. I did this for five years and the sisters seemed to enjoy sitting, chatting, and not having a child demanding a bit of their pie. I dont know why that would be, unless people are just assuming we ache for something more to nurture. Integrate how Jesus takes care of his mother's future well being while hanging on the cross with the scripture John 19:26-27. Its hard to please everyone. Preparation Print the song pages. And the Uchtdorf talk on grace from last conference and his talk on the flowers might be good ones. I love your idea of wearing different color of flowers. Thanks for thinking of me, my youngest bishop son! It was given by one of my high school friends. Some were difficult for metotell without choking up. And that concludes the story of how NewlyHousewife learned not to attend church on Mothers Day. As for me, I will be sitting this Mothers day out. If youre already perfect, who needs it? Nourishing their souls instead of feeding their bodies? What a nice gift for a Mom..hey, you guys have a great time!! It was a powerful meeting and very real. Thank you for writing this blog post. My mother died just a little less than a year ago, and I find that I never appreciated Mothers Day at all until now that my mother is gone. I know they happened fairly regularly in my own adolesence and early adulthood, but I cant remember one Ive heard personally in quite a while. This has been a big concern for me, as there are many women in the ward who are very sensitive to the Perfect Mother talks, and I didnt want to heap on to their burdens. "The ordinance of the sacrament," taught then Elder Dallin H. Oaks in 2008, "makes the sacrament meeting the most sacred and important meeting in the Church." 21 Accordingly, in 2015, Church leaders called for a renewed emphasis on Sabbath worship centered on partaking of the sacrament of the Lord's Supper. The Primary president asked him, as Chorister, to write a new song for the kids to sing in sacrament meeting on Mother's Day. Father's Day Talk in Sacrament Meeting June 21, 2009. Too often folks with food allergies, diabetes, and similar challenges are left feeling like second class saints in our food-laden church culture. Sisters would come up to me and express that MD was hard for them also for various reasonsone was abused by her mother while another friend had lost a mother she loved as a teenager so cried all day long. Needless to say he was not asked to speak in sacrament meeting for a long, long time. He discussed the tendency of many women to feel like failures and shared ways to overcome it. Because school is out in June, Fathers get the bum end of the deal when it comes to recognition. Inevitably they would be instructed that the gifts were for all women, so theyd try hard to give me one. Every week they strive to prepare for that sacred ordinance with a broken heart and a contrite spirit (see 3Nephi 9:20). 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Todd Christofferson Meets with the President of Ghana, Church of Jesus Christ Issues Statement on SEC Settlement, Latter-day Saints to Celebrate Easter With Single Christ-Centered Worship Meeting and Music, President Oaks Explains the Churchs Position on the Respect for Marriage Act, Elder D. Todd Christofferson Dedicates the San Juan Puerto Rico Temple, Elder Neil L. Andersen Offers Six Ways to Strengthen Faith in Jesus. It seemed to strike just the right tone. Im sort of hoping that the person before me goes too long and I have to wrap up with my testimony. Motherhood as a path to choose to be a better disciple of Christ by caring for those Christ lives.feed my sheep, etc. This might be a useful reference in terms of stories about Christ and women (not saying to cite it, just to get scripture references and helpful context): http://www.fairmormon.org/perspectives/fair-conferences/2015-fairmormon-conference/christs-emancipation-of-women-in-the-new-testament. Focus on womanhood and examples of strong women, not on a perfect homemaker mother. She worked during the day and took classes at night, and created a home for her children where they knew love. He chose to base his talk on To The Mothers In Zion, and used it to essentially chastise and condemn working women, and it sent half the ward fuming into the bishops office. We once had a bishop hand out frozen TV dinners! Ancient Romans and Greeks would celebrate Cybele / Rhea, the mother of the Gods with festivals in the spring time. Crowd-sourcing request each year when I plan the Mother's Day sacrament meeting I feel an extra bit of pressure to make it special for our wives and mothers. Flowers were also given to anyone who wanted to wear one in honour of their mothers. Im catching up on the comments, but Kristines suggestion in #72 is perfect. This cup is the new testament in my blood, which is shed for you (Luke 22:1920). I explained that I was not calling any men to speak, due to their tendency to give perfect mother talks, and felt they could do a better job giving an honest uplifting talk that could be of benefit to the mothers in the congregation. Honestly, considering how touchy this subject is (women w/out kids, abusive moms, separated/divorced men who don't want to be, moms who've passed, etc), I'd focus on Womanhood. It is Mother's Day and yet the day is supposed to about everything about women EXCEPT being a mother. Finally, Elder Holland offers his thanks to mothers around the world. Latter-day Saints in a contemporary congregation partake of the sacrament. The meeting isnt about me or you, or a missionary, or mother, its about the Savior and His atonement. I know some women get upset because they arent mothers, but it doesnt bother me. However, I am concerned about the implications of a people where the female population dislikes the concept of motherhood or at least dislikes it enough that they do not want to celebrate Mother's Day. It is even worse when women are so enthused with Father's Day that they want to ignore it completely - as in absolutely not mention it. So He can be ideal AND real. Especially since whoever asked him to speak didnt learn their lesson and he said the exact same talk a year later. If So, Should We Pray Out Loud? I could send you a PDF of the sheet music, but it's probably too late now for your choir and Primary to prepare in time for Mother's Day. The two adult speakers should center their talk on Jesus; if you want, assign a youth speaker to speak on Mothers, the Primary sings a song, and pass out the flower at the end. Re-reading my comment (101) it sounds very harsh even though that is not how I mean it to sound. This change wasnt well-received as it occurred without any advance notice. Yesterday I enjoyed another Mother's Day sacrament meeting, typical with its children's songs, a talk from a young man about how wonderful mothers are, a talk from a sister about how wonderful women are, and a tearful talk from a brother about all the incredible mothers in his life. I agree! The sacrament provides an opportunity for Church members to ponder and remember with gratitude the life, ministry, and Atonement of the Son of God. Maybe Ill get a pizza and tell the kids to cook it for breakfast when Sunday morning comes. It was a nice meeting. Latter-day Saints to Attend Sacrament Meeting Only on Christmas Day Church Newsroom November 10, 2022 Church The First Presidency of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has. I mean big ol gnarly wretch. . LDS Hymn Arrangements. Great, and I was just asked to talk on Sunday, I guess I will be very careful. So be kind to her. If I would obtain the blessing, Think about your message and how it will sound to the entire spectrum of your sisters in the ward. Then they would close by saying that it was the most wonderful blessing imaginable. Julie B. Beck reminds women what it means to be a mother who knows listing a number of attributes, including the principles of bearing children, honoring sacred covenants, nurturing others, doing less, teaching, and leading. I have suggested the donate-money-to-the-shelter thing for about four years now; it gets a blank stare, followed by a startled, oh! 3. please please please please dont pull us teachers from Primary for pie or talking. Id like to see the swords beaten into plow shares this mothers day And for once ( just once) the SAHM vs working mom verbal cat claws retracted. There was nothing you could do that would ever make you feel like she didnt love you, but she always told you the truth about your behavior and was not afraid to be entirely real with you even when you wanted to lie to yourself. Through the shedding of His blood, Jesus Christ saved all people from what the scriptures call the original guilt of Adams transgression (Moses 6:54). Aleah Ingram With that in mind, there are great ideas in this discussion thread of ways to do exactly that. And Im batting clean up. Even men who are on diets. Im against handing out plants on Mothers Day. I find women in general to be compassionate and sensitive to other people and a joy to be around. I am on the Speakers Bureau for the Rape Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN) and we would welcome the donations too. We got the story about women blessing their cows a couple of years ago. Thank you. Can they not celebrate their own mothers? For the injured interceding, My mom still to this day says it was the best Mothers Day talk ever. Although with good intentions, speakers usually put mothers and motherhood on a pedestal ("Mothers are loving and caring and naturally nurturing", "A mother's love is the closest thing to Christlike love on earth", "No mother is perfect, except my mom, who is literally an . Ugh.chocolate and cheescake.and NO TALKS!!! Ill be checking back! Next, it is always very specific so as to not offend anyone. The woman described her family as she was growing up. As always, Kurt, I was happy to give you a hand with this! See also What to Expect at Church Services. So He can be ideal AND real. at all.. Probably low on the most desired list, but very creative and I will always remember that with a smile. Best Mother's Day Topics, Scriptures, Conference Talks, Etc. Make it different, and they will see you are trying. How about honoring our mothers by not just focusing on what they do or have done for us (guilt trip for those that feel they never do enough) but focus on ways the members can help their mothers throughout each stage of their life. Which meeting do you think would be more meaningful to the participants? President Hinckley directly addresses mothers in this talk, commending them for the wonderful thing they have done by becoming mothers, but offering insights on their greatest challenge: to be able to answer the question How well have my children done? with happiness. My kids are way too distracting. It isnt uncommon for LDS women to be dealing with some combination of the following factors: a difficult marriage, no marriage, no children, difficult children, health problems, loss of faith. Yeah, it would be pretty late to be thinking about music now. I think its terribly sad that growing up Mormon, I never heard anyone make any serious attempt to talk about Heavenly Mother on Mothers Day. Today the sacrament is an ordinance in which Church members partake of bread and water in remembrance of Jesus Christ's atoning sacrifice. Elder Ballard lists three ways mothers can do that; first, is realizing joy comes in moments, second is to not overschedule children, and third, to find time to cultivate talents and interests.. Clap my hands and shout for joy! But since youre not, Im bowing out this year. Why Women, Especially Mothers, Working Outside the Home is an Abomination Unto the Lord. Ideals ALL! What does that say about the role of motherhood? Then I served in a Branch with 90% women who had absent husbands and who also grew up with absent fathers. I love this. Mother's Day: My talk by Kaimi Wenger May 5, 2009 23 Comments It's hard to strike the right balance, between affirming Moms who really need to be told that they made a good decision; and letting others (especially women) know that they're okay, too. It was an emotional rollercoaster of raised hopes and disappointments. It was the service ofthe sisters that made the talk memorable. But I certainly enjoyed the beauty of the whole situation and was very glad to see so many young peole in the Church on Sunday. Or better yet, teach their classes and let them attend RS for a day? This reflects a very different image than the one we portray to the world about our values and what we say means the most to us. Bear in mind thatmost of women in the congregation havelives that havent turned out the way they expected. That being said, my ward will be nice and quiet next Sunday, one of the joys of the YSA wards. The third tells of a mother who helped her daughter with a disability at a temple dedication. After a lot of thought and prayer I called two sisters to speak on some of the blessings and also the challenges of raising children in the gospel. To the light the lost ones leading, Ohand did you say you had an extra ticket??? Idealsno, no maam not for me. I have heard good talks and bad talks, and really dislike the sacralizing of the universal and perfectly average activity of mothering. I remember long ago a young woman spoke on Mother's Day and described her mother as "the mean mother". The reminder was given to visit those sisters unable to attend on Mother's Day. Uchtdorf. Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. Speaking for myself, I think Fathers Day is much easier. You can still give the women the day off. Sacrament meetings include music, talks, testimonies and prayers. We need ideals especially ones who arent ideal, so we can redefine ideal. Usually chocolate, a plant or flower. With a purpose firm and willing, Mother's Day Last year I used the last verse of "Teach Me to Walk in the Light" and the song "Teacher/Mother Do You Love Me" for the Mother's Day Primary songs in sacrament meeting. Forgive me for not understanding the blessing part of it. Alece, I also love CS Lewis, and agree that we should look to higher ground in our mortal journey. Watching the Primary children singing to their mothers in Sacrament meeting was the hardest. I am 70 years old and have never been a mother, but I had one. I just dont like when they push the plant on me after Ive politely declined it. Sacrament meeting is the term for a regular Latter-day Saint worship service, usually held each week on Sunday, where the sacrament (similar to communion) is offered to the members of the Church. . Its a complete set-up for failure. To all of you giving talks, good luck on navigating the mine fields! 1) Peanut butter sandwiches served with a smile tastes much better than the fanciest meal served with a side of stress. But her mother held a yardstick, and if her daughter played the wrong key, her mother smacked her across the back ofher hands, thus providing sufficient negative reinforcement to motivate her to do it right the next time through. Some of the stories were simple acts of kindness and some were extraordinary examples of love and sacrifice. Speechless. Being Both a Disciple & a Daughter: Balancing Formality in Prayer. But shes never experienced the horrors I have where the local ward nut case talks about how his wife isnt putting out thanks to menopause. I actually feel it is not so dissimilar on fathers day, particularly since the disparity between them can demean men. If it is unique to us, I wonder why we have a corner on the Mothers Day anxiety market. Im also a High Councilor, who always tries very much not to speak in rose-colored platitudes that, sadly, you associate with High Council speakers. I believe he has mellowed and gained wisdom over the years and was a part of a later bishopric. If you personally need one, thats fine, but not everyone needs a model for something that is experienced differently by everyone. Steve P. wont be the only one this Mothers Day asked to speak on that controversial talk, its still in heavy circulation in wards. In Bishopric meeting this year, I quoted your little sister regarding plants. Diversity and Unity in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Environmental Stewardship and Conservation, Joseph Smiths Teachings about Priesthood, Temple, and Women, Peace and Violence among 19th-Century Latter-day Saints, The Manifesto and the End of Plural Marriage, Translation and Historicity of the Book of Abraham. It was my missionary farewell, back when such things were acceptable. I would love tohear from you. Not within an hour of reading this post did I get a call from a member of our bishopric asking me to speak on Sunday. The primaries (100 of them? When He instituted the sacrament, Jesus Christ said, This is my body which is given for you: this do in remembrance of me. In preparation for the sacrament each week, Church members take time to examine their lives and repent of sins. She never got her kids back and they never forgave her, and she died of some incurable stress induced disease. Ere the sun goes down: My own dear mother, long since gone to her reward, summed up the essence of the perfect Mothers Day talk quite nicely. A day focused on mothers is hard enough for many women, and much more so when thats all they hear about at church. 41 Fear not, little children, for you are mine, and I have overcome the world, and you are of them that my Father hath given me; 42 And none of them that my Father hath given me shall be lost.. I wish that EVERY ward had a FD talk on what unrighteousness dominion is, and why it should be the job of every priesthood holder and father to raise sons who understand it and daughters who wont stand for it. Thats what insulin is for. Why shouldn't women be those who teach about the glory of god that is woman? Your email address will not be published. Ugh ugh ugh. They would eat honey cakes and give flowers. I loved it! I was asked to speak 3 times on MD during my infertility phase. Beware the philosophies of Hallmark, mingled with scripture. lol. I do think a lot of Mormon women enjoy talks that validate their efforts at motherhood, and I think some of these talks get interpreted as angel mother talks when theyre really not. Modal title . It very gently re-addressed several of the points that were flying in the newspapers and throughout the church in the Mothers Who Know backlash.
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